For Coaches, Facilitators, Therapists & Healers
Who Holds Space for You?
When unprocessed grief starts leaking into the sessions, ceremonies, and relationships that matter most.
Laylani Colibri Jack
Grief-Informed Coach, Speaker and bestselling author of
The Compassion Code (published as Laura Jack)
You're already doing deep, meaningful work. But grief, yours and others, might be the one place you feel like you're falling short.
Maybe it was a client's story that hit too close to home. Someone you couldn't reach, no matter how hard you tried. A family member or a friend who needed the right words, and you didn't have them. A loss of your own that you never had time to fully feel, because you were too busy holding space for everyone else's.
Maybe it was a moment when you realized that the very thing you're here to do, guide people through their hardest moments, is the thing your own unprocessed grief keeps quietly getting in the way of.
Underneath it all lies the question: Am I even the right person for this if I can't manage my own grief? Is there a way to do the work I'm called to do without my own unhealed grief running the show?
The answer: Yes. Your grief doesn't disqualify you from your calling… it's just been waiting for you to finally deal with it. And that is exactly what this work is for.
Meet Laylani Colibri Jack (formerly Laura Jack)
Before I was a coach, a speaker, the author of The Compassion Code, or the founder of The LIGHT Method™ — I was a daughter grieving, a woman searching, and a human learning how to feel.
In 2008, I lost my mother. Her death cracked open something inside me — not just of grief, but of awakening.
Years later, in a moment when I felt lost and confused, I received a message that felt like both a whisper from my mom and a calling from my soul:
LOVE. loss. LOVE.
From that seed, everything grew.
Nearly two decades later, I've walked alongside hundreds of people through this journey — parents and partners, doctors and reverends, counselors and coaches — people in the middle of the kind of loss that makes you question everything.
Not one of them came to me because of a job title.
They came because something in them broke open — and yet their job title, their role, was exactly why they couldn't afford to let their grief keep getting in the way.
Today, after years of evolution, we're creating LIGHThouses in the world: steady, heart-centered humans who have done their inner work so they can shine their light at home, at work, and in their communities.
The LIGHT Method™
A 9.5 month transformational journey for people supporting others intimately — coaching, counseling, healing, facilitating — whose own unprocessed grief has started interfering with the very work they're here to do. Not just for the people they serve, but for themselves.
I was once told that you can only take others as far as you're willing to go — so I have gone to the depths, and I will guide you step by step on a journey that took me almost 20 years.
Release the weight of unresolved grief. Reclaim your authentic self. Rise as someone who can confidently hold whatever life throws at them with grace and ease, knows how to come back to center, and leads with love instead of fear.
This is where your healing becomes your gift.
A few of the organizations I've worked with:
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In times of disruption, loss, or change, teams need more than resilience training. They need to know how to acknowledge what's heavy and show up for each other without carrying the emotional weight.
International Best-Selling Book
The Compassion Code: How to Say the Right Thing When the Wrong Thing Happens
Most people care, but when someone is grieving or hurting, we freeze.
We worry we’ll say the wrong thing… so we say nothing at all.
This book changes that.
With real stories and practical tools, The Compassion Code helps you:
Navigate hard conversations with confidence and heart
Heal disconnection—starting with yourself
Become the person others can count on when life gets hard without burning out
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